doing some outside work at our summer cottage this weekend. There are always
things to do in preparation for winter. If you live somewhere with a yard or a
garden, spend some time doing work outside this weekend. If you don’t have an
outside area that is your responsibility, pick up a trash bag and clean up an
area close to where you live.
Physical tasks like raking leaves, chopping firewood, or felling trees gives you a feeling of satisfaction that intellectual work on your computer doesn’t. Do something with your body this weekend to start next week with a positive feeling of accomplishment.
October is National Bullying Prevention Month, and there are also bullying prevention weeks and days. These efforts are misnamed and should be called “bullying awareness” instead. Preventing bullying is not something that happens in one day, week, or month.
To prevent bullying,
and to lessen the impact when it does happen, we need to work on self-esteem.
That is a long-term effort. Teachers can include it in the curriculum, but once
we leave school, we are on our own. If you have been the victim of bullying,
look for tools that help you improve how you feel about yourself.
I love how this Yale Professor has made a tiny bed for her phone. She recognized that she had a hard time turning it off at night, and found a way to put it to bed. She has shared this tip and four others for coping with anxiety and stress on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kCQim9VrnDY.
Do you have a bed for your phone? Maybe you should have.
are missing travel so much that they will pay to eat in a parked A380 super
jumbo. Singapore airlines quickly sold out the first dinners and have added
traveling, but I actually don’t miss sitting on airplanes. What I enjoy is the
mindset of traveling. Coronavirus limits our physical options, but it does not
prevent us from enjoying the feeling of traveling. Make plans to travel
somewhere, even if only just outside your city.
If you are working from home, you don’t have the physical separation of work and leisure you have been used to. That can make the days run together, and lead to feeling disconnected and unenthusiastic about your life.
this feeling, make sure you set goals with different timeframes. Each day
should achieve a couple of mini-goals, and each week should have at least one
goal. If your work doesn’t provide you with goals like this, you will have to
make them up yourself. It doesn’t matter if they are private or professional
goals. What is your goal for this week?
emotions where visible, when my resent client talked about, how he kept
stopping himself for moving forward. He would start on a project, and then,
when he had completed just over half the project, “things” got in the way.
emotions as a doorway in. We went back to a situation in childhood, where he had
been ridiculed in front of the class for a project, he had spent quite an amount
of time on. As he sensed himself in the classroom, he could hear his classmates
laugh, and feel how his whole body had tensed up to keep him from crying. And
he realized that the little boy right there, had made a decision to never
complete a project again, in order to protect himself from being hurt once more.
client into a dialog with his younger age self, he was able to comfort the young
self and support him in moving through the emotions. And they both realized,
that completing projects was something they truly wanted.
week my client happily shared with me how he had gone home and worked on his recent
project. And had completed it within a few days.
to use the emotions as a doorway into helping our clients, is an effective way
to uncover and work through the roots to our clients problems. And RIM
(Regenerating Image in Memory) is a great tool to have in your toolbox, when you
are searching for the best way to help your client.
You can learn more by participating in a free online group demonstration. Here you can get a taste of how RIM can benefit yourself and your clients and learn more about the RIM method. Sign up to join the next available call here
Doing the webinar you will be guided through a group RIM experienced. Doing the discussion afterwards, you will learn more about the RIM method, have time to ask your questions, and find out if RIM is a good fit for you. Sign up here
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”Wrong answer,” “Not relevant” were the responses I usually got when I tried to
speak up in class. Or I was simply
ignored. Over time, my voice began disappearing. It became less and less
audible as my internal fear of receiving a harsh reaction and being ridiculed
During my school
years, I had speech therapy multiple times to help me raise my voice. The goal
was that my classmates and others could simply hear what I said. I learned to
articulate more clearly, to use my body to put more sound into my voice. And
yes, it did help in the therapy sessions. But it didn’t raise my voice or made
it clearer outside of the safe place in the therapist’s office. Speech therapy
tackled the mechanical aspects of my voice issues, but it didn’t address the
emotional issues – my extremely low self-esteem and my anxiety. And these were
the main reasons my voice had shut down.
I used to
believe I was an introvert. Today, I love networking. I used to think I
couldn’t speak in front of others, today I love speaking and teaching around
the world. The shift came when I started to work on my limiting beliefs, my
anxiety issues and the deep emotional blocks created by my teacher and others
who bullied me over the years. I did it, and you can, too.
and blocking beliefs will define how you show up in your life today. When you
choose to work through these blocks, you start to show up differently and can
create a different life. As one of my clients said: “With my old belief, I
would have taken the boring job as a sales assistant well inside my comfort
zone.” Instead, she went for the other offer as a project manager for a
major event. Before she was able to take that decision, she had to work on her
low self-esteem and the belief that nobody would listen to her. Today, she is
happy in her job and can’t believe that she ever considered taking the sales
Are you ready to work through the blocks that stop you? Join my free community where you can find resources to help you move forward in life.
My new book Life after Bullying – Three Steps to Inner Peace is just released. And it is so exciting that I want you to join the virtual launch party on Saturday, February 9th at 3pm CET. Sign up through this link https://www.lifeafterbullying.com/virtual-launch-party and join me. If you can’t make it at that time, sign up anyway and I’ll send you a link to the recording.
It’s the start of 2019, and many people are setting goals. How can you make it more likely that you achieve yours?
First, you need to own your own life. This gives you the capacity to own and achieve your goals.
If you’re not achieving your goals, there is probably something blocking you. Your feelings today are often caused by something that happened in your past. One of the things I experience very often in my practice is that people who have been bullied early in life have a low self esteem. They are having a hard time to achieve what they really want because they do not believe they can. Once you have worked on your self esteem to make it possible to will make it more likely that you achieve your goals.
I’m talking a lot about how to conquer your past and increase you self-esteem in my new book Life after Bullying. You can buy it on Amazon.com or other major bookstores.