How to set good goals

Don’t plan on Olympic gold. As we watch the Olympic Games, we are treated to one inspiring story after another of people who set a goal, trained hard, and won their gold medal. The invisible flip side of the coin is that there are lots of people who trained just as hard and didn’t get gold. When the first two finish within 1/100 of a second, it is random chance that determines who ends up with the gold. And some athletes were eliminated from their life’s competition because they were unlucky to contract coronavirus at the worst possible time.

When setting your goals, do not have just one. That will make Olympic silver or similar achievements feel like a failure. In the chapter on goal-setting in my book Life after Bullying, I explain how to set minimum, target, and outrageous goals. Having several variations of your goal gives you the focusing effect of having a goal without beating yourself up if you don’t get exactly what you envisioned.

Read more about my book here: https://www.lifeafterbullying.com/book/

The Author of your Life

Are you the author of your life? Think of your life as a book, and each day a new page is written. Some of the things that happen are things that have to be done. You need to eat, sleep and take care of personal hygiene. There is shopping, cleaning, and washing. You will spend part of your time on your job. I discussed that on Monday.

But that still leaves a lot of time under your control. Think about whether you are spending that time in the right way for you. For some people, watching a movie on Netflix is the right choice. For others, it is keeping in touch with friends, or reading good books, or learning something new.

The test of your priorities is to write down in your journal what you did with your personal time each day. If you feel proud and happy to write about your day in your journal, you are on the right track. If you feel hesitant or shameful when writing down how you spent your time, that shows you that there is something you can change for the better.

Reflect on Your Life

Are you spending enough time reflecting on your life? Today is  Great Prayer Day here in Denmark, and other countries have similar days. Even if you are not religious, take this reminder to spend some time thinking about your life.

It is easy to get caught up in the day-to-day running of your life. We are so busy with our little tasks and chores that we do not have time to think about the longer term. But if you have not decided where you want to go, you have no guidance in your life.

In Alice in Wonderland, Alice asks the cat: “Which way should I go?” The cat asks where she wants to get to, and she says: “I don’t much care where.” The cat replies: “Then it doesn’t matter which way you go.”

Spend some time today, or this weekend, thinking about where you want to go in your life. What do you want your life to look like in one year, in five years, in ten years? What legacy do you want to leave?

You might think you don’t have an answer, but you do. You simply need to give your brain space and time to think. That’s why religious people pray, and others meditate. You don’t have to do either. You just need to turn off all your devices and spend several hours doing nothing. You know the answer. Let it come to the surface so you can act on it.

Spring is Coming

Winter is drawing to a close, and spring is approaching. Here in Denmark, the days are getting longer and the first early spring flowers are breaking out of the ground. This is a time for preparing. What will you be doing this year? If you haven’t set a few goals for 2021, now is a good time to do it. And find some easy first steps you can do to start you journey towards your goal. It can be something really simple like looking up the information you need on the internet. Count that as progress towards your goal. Spring is coming.

Achieve Your Goals

The goals you achieve are the ones you set with your heart. Goals that you set with your mind on January 1st while nursing a hangover have a very low success rate.

Let me show you how to set goals with your heart – goals you really, truly want to achieve. Join me online tomorrow at 4 pm CET/10 am EST and I’ll take you through the proven process I use to help my clients uncover their true goals. I will guide you through a meditation and help you find the strong, personal “Why” that will drive you to accomplish your goal.

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Find the Goal You Truly Want to Achieve in 2021

Only 8% achieve the goals they set on New Year’s Eve. The reason is that they are intellectual goals created by your mind, often based on something we feel we “should” do or achieve.

Success comes when you set a goal with your heart. You have to find out what you really, deep down, want to achieve.

Join me online on Thursday, January 7th at 4 pm CET/10 am EST and I’ll take you through a process to help you find the goal you truly want to achieve in 2021. Using a guided meditation and my goal-setting process, you’ll find the reason you want to achieve that goal. Your personal “Why” will be a strong driver that will lead you to accomplish your goal in the coming months.

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I wish you a happy and prosperous 2021!

Goal Setting from the Heart – the Secret to Achieving Your Goals

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Review Your Year

It is a good idea to review your life regularly, and the time between Christmas and New Year is a good time for a long-term review. This year, you will find that many of your plans and intentions from 12 months ago went out the window because of the strange year we’ve had.

Don’t beat yourself up that you didn’t achieve your goals this year. The purpose of a goal is not to achieve that specific thing, but to inspire you to move towards a better future. One of my goals involved public speaking, and I was not able to speak for as many people as I wished. But because I had the goal, I was inspired to seek out other opportunities to get my message out, and I’ve been running online presentations and meetups instead.

Reflect on your year, let go of all the things that weren’t possible, and re-live all the positive things that did happen.

Set Goals for Every Day

If you are working from home, you don’t have the physical separation of work and leisure you have been used to. That can make the days run together, and lead to feeling disconnected and unenthusiastic about your life.

To fight this feeling, make sure you set goals with different timeframes. Each day should achieve a couple of mini-goals, and each week should have at least one goal. If your work doesn’t provide you with goals like this, you will have to make them up yourself. It doesn’t matter if they are private or professional goals. What is your goal for this week?

Happy new year

I wish for you that 2019 will be filled with happy memories.

For me, this holiday was especially exciting and a little scary: After a long gestation period, my book Life After Bullying – Three Steps to Inner Peace was finally published.

In Life After Bullying, I share my journey, how I came to love myself again, became confident and started to trust myself and others again. It wasn’t always easy, but with support and slowly finding the right tools, I made it. And now that I have realized we all have unknown potential inside of us, I keep moving to the next level.

However, Life After Bullying isn’t just a book about me. It is a toolbox that guides you through the steps I know can help you in taking your life to the next level. Over the past 6 years, I have helped many clients from around the world who suffer from a traumatic past. Based on my own journey and theirs, I have developed a path with three essential steps that take you from a debilitating lack of self-esteem to owning your own life.

The steps are:

  1. Preparing the ground, where you create a strong foundation by acknowledging yourself and the knowledge you have acquired.
  2. Creating your blueprint for success, which guides you towards the right goal. Knowing what you want out of your life gives you the road to success.
  3. Building your ideal life, where you learn tools to support you in creating your new life. Tools to let go of your past and build the life you dream of.

Learn more about Life After Bullying by visiting the book website at www.lifeafterbullying.com or buy it here.
I wish you all the best for the upcoming year.