Track Your Sleep

Do you know how much or how little you sleep? Not sleeping enough increases your risk of dementia. Adding to the already long list of diseases and problems associated with too little sleep, researchers in the UK has demonstrated a correlation between too little sleep and increased dementia risk. After controlling for a long range of other health factors, they found that 50-year-olds who slept six hours or less per night had a 22% increased risk of developing dementia. For 60-year-olds, the risk went up by 37%.

Keep track of your sleep for a few weeks to get an idea of whether you are sleeping enough. There are many options for sleep tracking. The Apple watch and several other types of wristwatches register your sleep. You can also get sensors to place under your mattress or even a radar you place on your bedside table to track your movement during the night. But even if you don’t have any of these fancy devices, you can simply write in your journal when you started your evening wind-down, when you went to bed and when you got up. Spending some time winding down (without devices or TV) and spending enough time in bed is the first step towards better sleep.

If you don’t get enough sleep, it is very hard to make any change in your life.

St. Martin’s Day

Today is St. Martin’s Day. We don’t celebrate the day here in Denmark, but we do celebrate St. Martin’s Eve with roasted duck. I love cooking and prepared the usual feast for my family.

Even if you don’t love cooking as I do, it’s a good idea to be able to cook something. Cooking is not hard, it gives you a feeling of accomplishment and it’s a great activity to do with a friend or partner. And cooking your meals yourself is much healthier than eating take-away.

Work outside

I’ll be doing some outside work at our summer cottage this weekend. There are always things to do in preparation for winter. If you live somewhere with a yard or a garden, spend some time doing work outside this weekend. If you don’t have an outside area that is your responsibility, pick up a trash bag and clean up an area close to where you live.

Physical tasks like raking leaves, chopping firewood, or felling trees gives you a feeling of satisfaction that intellectual work on your computer doesn’t. Do something with your body this weekend to start next week with a positive feeling of accomplishment.

The Traveling Mindset

Some people are missing travel so much that they will pay to eat in a parked A380 super jumbo. Singapore airlines quickly sold out the first dinners and have added more dates.

I enjoy traveling, but I actually don’t miss sitting on airplanes. What I enjoy is the mindset of traveling. Coronavirus limits our physical options, but it does not prevent us from enjoying the feeling of traveling. Make plans to travel somewhere, even if only just outside your city.

When the scared kid is holding your client back

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The emotions where visible, when my resent client talked about, how he kept stopping himself for moving forward. He would start on a project, and then, when he had completed just over half the project, “things” got in the way.

Using the emotions as a doorway in. We went back to a situation in childhood, where he had been ridiculed in front of the class for a project, he had spent quite an amount of time on. As he sensed himself in the classroom, he could hear his classmates laugh, and feel how his whole body had tensed up to keep him from crying. And he realized that the little boy right there, had made a decision to never complete a project again, in order to protect himself from being hurt once more.

Guiding my client into a dialog with his younger age self, he was able to comfort the young self and support him in moving through the emotions. And they both realized, that completing projects was something they truly wanted.    

Later that week my client happily shared with me how he had gone home and worked on his recent project. And had completed it within a few days.

Being able to use the emotions as a doorway into helping our clients, is an effective way to uncover and work through the roots to our clients problems. And RIM (Regenerating Image in Memory) is a great tool to have in your toolbox, when you are searching for the best way to help your client.

You can learn more by participating in a free online group demonstration. Here you can get a taste of how RIM can benefit yourself and your clients and learn more about the RIM method. Sign up to join the next available call here

Doing the webinar you will be guided through a group RIM experienced. Doing the discussion afterwards, you will learn more about the RIM method, have time to ask your questions, and find out if RIM is a good fit for you. Sign up here  

To Learn more about the RIM method and upcoming trainings Click here

Goal Setting

It’s the start of 2019, and many people are setting goals. How can you make it more likely that you achieve yours?

First, you need to own your own life. This gives you the capacity to own and achieve your goals.

If you’re not achieving your goals, there is probably something blocking you. Your feelings today are often caused by something that happened in your past. One of the things I experience very often in my practice is that people who have been bullied early in life have a low self esteem. They are having a hard time to achieve what they really want because they do not believe they can. Once you have worked on your self esteem to make it possible to will make it more likely that you achieve your goals.

I’m talking a lot about how to conquer your past and increase you self-esteem in my new book Life after Bullying. You can buy it on Amazon.com or other major bookstores.

Happy new year

I wish for you that 2019 will be filled with happy memories.

For me, this holiday was especially exciting and a little scary: After a long gestation period, my book Life After Bullying – Three Steps to Inner Peace was finally published.

In Life After Bullying, I share my journey, how I came to love myself again, became confident and started to trust myself and others again. It wasn’t always easy, but with support and slowly finding the right tools, I made it. And now that I have realized we all have unknown potential inside of us, I keep moving to the next level.

However, Life After Bullying isn’t just a book about me. It is a toolbox that guides you through the steps I know can help you in taking your life to the next level. Over the past 6 years, I have helped many clients from around the world who suffer from a traumatic past. Based on my own journey and theirs, I have developed a path with three essential steps that take you from a debilitating lack of self-esteem to owning your own life.

The steps are:

  1. Preparing the ground, where you create a strong foundation by acknowledging yourself and the knowledge you have acquired.
  2. Creating your blueprint for success, which guides you towards the right goal. Knowing what you want out of your life gives you the road to success.
  3. Building your ideal life, where you learn tools to support you in creating your new life. Tools to let go of your past and build the life you dream of.

Learn more about Life After Bullying by visiting the book website at www.lifeafterbullying.com or buy it here.
I wish you all the best for the upcoming year.